I was tossing and turning last night because I made a mistake yesterday. Luckily this particular mistake only cost me about $40 and I know that in the grand scheme of things that's really not a big deal, but it still felt unsettling. I ended up spending some time reflecting on mistakes I've made in the past - some big, some small, some that have completely changed my life for the better, and others that have started a ripple effect that is still in the process of unfolding, that may or may not ultimately result in something I'm happy about. Maybe this all sounds a little vague, but my point is that we all make mistakes sometimes and there's no going back. If you're a perfectionist like I am you probably dwell just a little too much on the fact that you didn't quite think things out, didn't do the research you "should have" done, or you just went with the decision that felt right but didn't turn out the way you imagined it would.
The thing is, you can't forget that as long as you make a point to trust your instincts in the moment, nothing else matters. Fine if it doesn't turn out the way you pictured, or doesn't even turn out in a way you feel is positive. You made the best decision you possibly could have made in the moment and the truth is that it may have turned out better than whatever the potential alternative was.
And guess what. If you're a mom, well if you're a human being, but especially if you're a mom, you're gonna be making plenty of mistakes along the way as you teach and care for and love your children. They may even remember a few of your mistakes. But in the end it isn't the mistakes that are important. How you you make your kids feel on a day to day basis is what's important. It's also what shapes human beings.
I'm debating sharing a mistake I made the day Daliya, my daughter, was born. It is hard to share really personal details, especially when I still feel like I'm healing emotionally from that particular mistake. If you're reading this and you want to hear about it, post a comment of love or support and maybe I'll let myself be really really vulnerable in my next post, and let you in on an intimacy of my path to becoming a mom, just like I hope you'll let me in on yours.
The thing is, you can't forget that as long as you make a point to trust your instincts in the moment, nothing else matters. Fine if it doesn't turn out the way you pictured, or doesn't even turn out in a way you feel is positive. You made the best decision you possibly could have made in the moment and the truth is that it may have turned out better than whatever the potential alternative was.
And guess what. If you're a mom, well if you're a human being, but especially if you're a mom, you're gonna be making plenty of mistakes along the way as you teach and care for and love your children. They may even remember a few of your mistakes. But in the end it isn't the mistakes that are important. How you you make your kids feel on a day to day basis is what's important. It's also what shapes human beings.
I'm debating sharing a mistake I made the day Daliya, my daughter, was born. It is hard to share really personal details, especially when I still feel like I'm healing emotionally from that particular mistake. If you're reading this and you want to hear about it, post a comment of love or support and maybe I'll let myself be really really vulnerable in my next post, and let you in on an intimacy of my path to becoming a mom, just like I hope you'll let me in on yours.
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