Soon after our daughter was born, I had to return to classes at my school. It was a struggle to get my self out of the door, not just because of all the things there are to do around the house as a new parent and husband of a momma who underwent a c-section but also because I had trouble prying myself away from my little family. I did my best, but often I was a couple of minutes late to class, which my amazing and supportive teachers often overlooked and understood with empathy.
One morning in particular I had put it into my mind that I would be in class on time! I got up early and got ready, made breakfast for my wife and myself and was about to head to the door when I was asked to change the baby’s diaper.
“OK,” I thought, “No worries. I’ve done this dozens of time by now so it shouldn’t take more than a couple of minutes.” Little did I know what was about to happen. I unfastened my daughter’s diaper and prepared a new one for her, slipped in under her little tush and all of a sudden BAM!
Let me just say, I had heard of projectile vomiting, but I had no idea that it could come out the other end! And it had landed on my crisp clean shirt. I thought to myself, “ Well, there is no way I am going to be on time today,” and after handing off the baby, I went back into my room, changed, and finally made my way to school. On the way out the door I said, “Note to self, when changing the baby, never stand in the line of fire!”
This lesson, very early on in my daughter’s life, made something click for me. Being a parent is about rolling with the punches. It’s about taking things as they come and bouncing back. Parenthood, from conception on, requires flexibility and also the ability to learn from our mistakes.
As Becky has shared in previous blog posts, her pregnancy was not necessarily an easy one. We had certain things in mind for her pregnancy and birth experience that we had dreamed about. Some we gratefully received and some we had to let go. But the things that didn’t quite work out, we learned from. Becky’s experience with morning sickness helped her to develop an amazing system for aiding other mothers in conquering this early pregnancy struggle. Her diagnosis with gestational diabetes gave her the experience and the motivation needed to better understand what things the body needs nutritionally to not only survive pregnancy but also to thrive! Our pregnancy taught us what things we need to do the next time around to increase the likelihood of getting the birth we wanted the first time around.
Pregnancy and now parenthood is a learning experience. It doesn’t help to dwell too much on the mistakes we’ve made. It only benefits us to look at our errors long enough to make sense of them and learn how to correct them for the next time. Until next time!